Why I Don’t Use a Strap-On in My Domination

In the world of BDSM and domination, every dominatrix has her own preferences, her tools, her rituals. Many ask me: “Do you use a strap-on to dominate your submissives?”

The answer is simple: no. And that’s no accident.

The strap-on is undeniably a powerful accessory, but it also carries a very particular symbolism: that of masculinity, of virile penetration. Yet, I have never felt the need to borrow masculine codes to impose my authority, my power, my control.

I don’t need a penis, real or symbolic, to make someone submit, tremble, obey.
My domination works through the mind, the voice, the gaze, the presence. Through psychological play, carefully chosen humiliations, mental constraints, total control over the environment and sensations.

Some fantasize about domination through strap-on play, as if it were necessary to reproduce the phallic act to assert power. I, however, prefer to remind everyone that female domination has nothing to prove. It is whole, complete, sovereign — without needing to imitate.

I am a woman.
I dominate as a woman.
And those who kneel at my feet know it well:
no cock, no harness, no prosthesis can match the force of a true Mistress.